etiquite for men by g.r.m. devereux

sometimes a man becomes a little thoughtless of those around him; sometimes a wife will tend to spoil her husband by not expecting, and requiring, from him the same amount of courtesy which she would expect from another man. in either case the position is to be regretted, for no mas should allow himself to extend to his wife less courteous treatment than he would extend to any other woman.
such things as carry a heavy parcel, opening a door, giving "right of way" on the stairs, placing a chair at the table- these and countless other small services are rendered as a matter of course for any lady with whom a man comes in contact; and he should never think twice before performing similar services for the ladies in his own home. when there are children in the home even greater care should be taken that courtesy between the grown members of the family is evident. this is because children are so apt to copy the examples of their elders. the finest way in which children can be trained to grow up into thoughtful , courteous, and considerate men and women is by surrounding them with those qualities through out their younger days.
published 1929

i think there's something to be said in regressing a little but. sure wouldn't hurt society to give it a try.